Dating in the UK for open-minded people and couples

The United Kingdom is one of Europe's most open-minded places to date. Same-sex marriage has been legal since 2014 (and across all of the UK since 2020), and the wider culture is broadly live-and-let-live. London holds one of Europe's largest alternative and fetish scenes around Vauxhall, Soho and the east; Brighton is widely seen as the country's most LGBTQ+ city; Manchester's Canal Street is a landmark gay village; Edinburgh keeps a smaller, friendly scene around its Pink Triangle. For open couples, swingers, polyamorous people and the BDSM and LGBTQ+ communities — and for singles who simply want honest, compatible dating — the people are already here. What's been missing is a meeting space designed for it.

Why classical dating sites don't fit

On most platforms a couple looking for a third has to register as a single, or explain their format in a free-form text box. Polyamorous relationships don't fit any standard model. Swingers run into the community guidelines of generalist apps. And there's nowhere to state BDSM preferences and limits in a structured way — at best they end up in the 'about me' section, where nobody can filter or search on them.

On Gramsy, the profile shows from the start what each person is looking for, who they want to meet, and where their boundaries are. Our aim is to make the profile as informative as possible — so conversations with compatible people start on solid ground, and you can recognise clearly incompatible matches before sending the first message. That's just as useful for two singles as it is for a couple or a triad.

A young platform, openly so

We're a new platform, and we say so plainly. Gramsy is built for the people mainstream dating apps were never really designed around: couples looking for a third, swingers, polyamorous families, BDSM and LGBTQ+. These are overlapping communities, not the separate audiences the market tends to treat them as — and open-minded singles belong here too. So from the start we design with couple accounts and non-traditional formats as the primary case, not the exception.

Couple accounts and privacy

For couples there's a real couple account: both partners use it together, see the same conversations, and make decisions jointly. If in time you'd rather have two separate logins, that's possible — each gets their own credentials while the profile and conversations stay shared.

Photos are moderated before publication. Public pages show only what you've authorised; everything else stays in 'on request' or 'private' albums. The profile can be removed from search results while remaining reachable by direct link — useful when your professional circle overlaps with the local scene.

A nickname instead of your real name, with your phone number and email hidden. Your full identity is revealed only to the people you decide to meet.

Cities in the UK

For our launch we're present in four cities — London, Manchester, Brighton on the south coast and Edinburgh in Scotland. If your town isn't on the list yet, create your profile anyway: it's visible across the whole of the UK, and many couples and singles travel between London, the north and the coast for meet-ups.

Neighbouring destinations

• Dating in France — just across the Channel, with Paris's libertine culture and an established scene on the south coast
• Dating in the Netherlands — one of Europe's most liberal countries, with Amsterdam's open nightlife and a strong poly community