Privacy of intimate data
A Gramsy profile is shown in layers. The standard part, including the text of your description and limits, is visible to everyone who has access to the profile; access to intimate data is restricted.
Intimate data means:
- intimate parameters and preferences;
- photos from a private album;
- some fields in the "Ideal Meeting" section.
The main thing to know up front: when you fill in these fields, you are not publishing them. They remain closed until you choose to open them to a specific person.
Relationship formats and practices are handled separately: swing, poly, BDSM, and others. For short, both here and in the profile, we call them directions. They are also part of the intimate block, but they are shown by a matching rule. The rest is explained below in order.
What Is Visible in a Profile by Default
Profiles are visible only to signed-in platform users; they are not shown to site visitors who are not signed in or to search engines. Everything you have filled in on your profile is visible to any signed-in user who has access to your profile. This includes the description and limits you write yourself.
The exception is the intimate data listed above: it stays closed to everyone until you choose to open it to a specific person.
Before you have granted each other access, directions are shown only to people who have declared the same thing, and only as a match.
What You Can Adjust
You can hide your profile completely: then no one sees it except you. You can also remove it from search while keeping it available by direct link.
The intimate block has its own switch. In normal mode, the rule described above applies: direction matches are visible, but intimate data itself is not. In closed mode, even matches are not shown in the profile.
You can also limit who may message you and who may request access to your private album, for example only owners of verified profiles.
How to See Other People's Directions
A direction is visible when both sides have it. Add swing to your profile, and you will see it on profiles of people who have added the same thing. Until you have marked at least one direction, other people's directions remain hidden. Once you have granted each other access, directions are visible whether or not they match.
This is intentional: disclosure here is mutual, and it starts with you.
How to Search by Directions
Search by directions follows the same rule: it is available when you have listed your own directions in your profile. The filter offers exactly those directions.
As soon as you fill in this block, the filter appears in search and lets you search by the directions you marked. While there are no directions, there is no direction filter section in search either.
Profile Text: Description, Limits, Nickname and Headline
In your description and limits, you may write explicitly, including about sex and your preferences. If you want to decide yourself who sees the details, you can add them as profile tags: such details are only revealed after a mutual exchange. This is only a recommendation.
A description or limits text is rejected only for breaking the Community Guidelines or the Content Policy, for example for contact details, advertising, insults or references to minors. Explicitness is not a violation: a moderator may add a label to such a text, and it is then shown collapsed.
Stricter rules apply to the nickname and headline. Everyone sees them right away, and the nickname also appears in search, messages and likes. That is why explicit details, profanity and intimate information are not allowed in them: a moderator will reject such a nickname or headline.
Why a Text May Be Collapsed
A description or limits text is shown collapsed in two cases:
- the text has not yet been reviewed by a moderator. Readers see a neutral placeholder with a "Show description" or "Show boundaries" button instead;
- a moderator has noted that the text contains explicit details or profanity. The placeholder then names this reason.
Collapsing does not narrow the audience: a collapsed text is available to the same people as the rest of the profile, and any of them can expand it using the button on the placeholder. Outside the profile page, for example in search results, a collapsed text is not shown.
A label is not a penalty and does not affect the profile's position in search. The author sees the label next to the field in the profile editor. A new edit of the field goes back to review: until the moderator decides, a review notice is shown in place of the label, and if the edit is rejected, the rejection is shown. When the set of labels changes, the author receives a notification unless they have turned such notifications off in their settings. If you disagree with a label, contact support.
We collapse texts so that a profile does not shock people who are new to the platform or who are not looking for such details. The "explicit details" label covers details and descriptions of sex: sexual practices, partner combinations and formats, roles, kinks. Negation does not remove the label: "no anal" in your limits is still an explicit detail. Names of directions (swing, poly, BDSM and the others from the start of this page), tenderness and names of practices without specific sexual content do not get a label; context decides. The "profanity" label covers obscene words.
How to Open What Is Closed
The two closed layers open in different ways.
Intimate data
Here, a mutual exchange applies: both sides open to each other at the same time. You offer an exchange, the other person agrees, and you both see each other's intimate data. It does not work one-way.
An exchange offer waits thirty days for a response. Open access lasts a year, and either side can close it at any time.
Private album
Here, the process is different: you send the owner a request, and the owner decides. This is one-way access: by agreeing to show you their album, the person does not receive access to yours.
The owner can revoke access at any time. A refusal or revocation happens quietly: you will not receive a notification, and the request status is visible in your request list. If you are refused, you cannot send a new request right away: you will have to wait, and the interface will show how long.
Why It Works This Way
We recommend making your profile a story about yourself. When the most personal things are placed on display, the platform turns into a list of practices and parameters. Gramsy is made for something else: so compatibility and boundaries are clear before communication begins, rather than replacing it.
That is why access is gradual. You open to the person you choose, and exactly as much as they have opened to you. A person who is still looking around does not run into someone else's details, while someone who is ready finds their people through matches.
There is also a practical consequence: data from closed fields cannot be obtained simply by browsing profiles. It opens only through an exchange or a request. What to write in a description is up to each person.
If Access Did Not Open
There may be several reasons: the owner declined the request or revoked access granted earlier; they have closed mode enabled for the intimate block; they accept requests only from owners of verified profiles; there is a block between you. It can also happen that you have not declared your own directions and therefore do not see other people's matches.
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